Love At First Sight

Being single for years, I had grown used to the rhythm of independence. I had been focused on raising my children, chasing my goals, and healing from past experiences. But moving to a new environment gave me the push to try something different. Curiosity (and a little nudge from friends) led me to sign up on Facebook Dating.

Now, let me be honest, Facebook Dating was a whole comedy show at first. The awkward introductions, the unsolicited messages, and the never-ending “hey beautiful” DMs. But then, like something out of a rom-com, I met him.

He says it was love at first sight, but for me, it was love at first conversation. I was taken aback initially as he wanted me to meet his daughter on the first day and i thought he was crazy lol, Have you ever found a reason why things didn't work a certain way, he felt like the reason, and I freaked out, I got scared. Shielded myself for a bit, but my heart longed for him even in my silence.

There was something about the way he spoke, so calm, present, and intentional. I felt heard. I felt safe.

We started talking in February, and not long after my "shield process", we met with his children too! That meeting solidified it all for me (Internally though). He wasn’t just a man, he was a father, a friend, a partner, and someone who understands emotional depth. The way he interacts, the way he takes accountability for his words, and how he’s rooted in positivity, it’s refreshing. He’s unknowingly helping me unlearn and relearn, gently showing me how love is supposed to feel.

We’re still in that sweet honeymoon phase, but even now, he speaks with clarity about the future. Marriage. Partnership. Blending our families. It doesn’t feel rushed; it feels right.

His children? Adorable. I think I’ve earned a spot as their favorite adult friend already. And my own children? They’re just as thrilled. They’re excited to see me smile again. To love again. They tease, they observe, but they support. And that means everything to me.

We’re planning many family dates, game nights, and trips. I can’t wait to introduce him fully to my family and to meet his too. It’s early days, yes, but this feels like something real. Something true.

So, what does love at first sight feel like?

It feels like warmth when you didn’t know you were cold.

It feels like peace in the middle of a storm.

It feels like meeting someone who speaks your heart’s language without needing a translation.

And most of all, it feels like coming home.

To anyone reading this who has been afraid to try again: allow yourself to be found. Heal, but stay open. You just never know what love has planned for you.