Response To Pettiness

Yesterday evening, my phone rang and it was a group call I honestly didn’t expect.  My ex-best friend’s older sister and cousin reached out to “speak” about a blog post I made back in October. Yes, you read that right October. Months have passed, and apparently, the words I wrote are still living rent-free in people’s heads. Out of respect, I took down the post at the time while we were talking. I genuinely wanted peace. I didn’t think it was necessary to carry on drama that had already exhausted me emotionally.

But guess what? After giving it time, space, and silence, here I am again, getting confronted not even over the original blog post, but because I wished the older sister’s daughter a happy birthday. Let that sink in. A harmless, heartfelt birthday message was taken as some kind of provocation. And just like that, I found myself in the middle of “family drama” I had no interest in revisiting.

Honestly, it’s laughable now. Because let’s be real, I’m too grown for this.

I’m not here for power plays, whispered complaints, or calls laced with entitlement. I’ve spent way too much time evolving, reflecting, and healing to be dragged back into pettiness wrapped in family politics. Let’s get one thing straight: there are three sides to every story : my side, your side, and the truth. And the truth doesn’t get silenced just because it makes someone uncomfortable.

For months, I moved on. I let things go. I didn’t speak ill. I didn’t retaliate. I stayed in my lane. Yet, somehow, here we are still trying to monitor my blog, my life, my posts as though the energy should still be mutual. But I’m not there anymore. I have grown, I have evolved, and I am too solid in my identity to be bullied into silence about my truth.

So yes, the blog post will go back up, infact its back up!!!!. Because it wasn’t malicious. It was honest. It was raw. It was my story, and I have every right to tell it. And no, I will not bend to one person’s desire to have the world tilt in their direction. This isn’t about drama. It’s about boundaries.

Imagine after all these months, the only way to “check in” on me is through my blog. The same blog you once criticized is now your go-to page for updates about my life? Sis, you’ll be alright.

Another laughable accusation was that i am befriending her friends? the people she called through i have met through different people and definitely not through her, because i legit unfollowed her friends after the split as i didn't want anything with anyone who could potentially get me tangled in a situation.

Sending love to everyone involved, not because I have to, but because I genuinely want peace. That’s who I am. But peace doesn’t mean I’ll stay quiet or shrink myself to make others feel comfortable.

Not anymore.

This is my space. My story. My voice.

And I will use it.

Signed,

A woman who’s done explaining herself.